tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4225081154758813845.post4668888356149198608..comments2023-11-02T20:33:52.433-07:00Comments on Mahogany Drive: We Don't Want KidsCece @Mahogany Drivehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11851435478630045969noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4225081154758813845.post-27664719363780116632019-07-02T14:47:57.804-07:002019-07-02T14:47:57.804-07:00Can I tell you how much I love this post! We are a...Can I tell you how much I love this post! We are also a DINK family and decided in our early 20s, before taking the marriage plunge, that neither of us wanted to have kids. I cannot tell you how much I related to this post. I understand about your body betraying you as well. Baby fever is REAL. When we were in our 20s everyone said we'd change our minds. Now that we're in our 30s that hasAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4225081154758813845.post-55995276591655559582017-04-10T08:06:26.193-07:002017-04-10T08:06:26.193-07:00Yes! Yes! Yes! I am so afraid that I will not fid ...Yes! Yes! Yes! I am so afraid that I will not fid a husband that does not want kids! Thank you so much for your honesty!! Marriage is down the long road for me since I'm 22 and figuring life out, but I know for sure that I don't want children.Joyce Campbellnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4225081154758813845.post-60299815680609134082016-11-03T17:14:21.199-07:002016-11-03T17:14:21.199-07:00This was such a powerful read! I honestly don'...This was such a powerful read! I honestly don't have much more to add besides that. I like the way you laid it out and I completely get it. Faithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15614940560800247144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4225081154758813845.post-58430244098140701982016-03-08T17:09:45.886-08:002016-03-08T17:09:45.886-08:00i always tell anyone without kids, "if you li...i always tell anyone without kids, "if you like your independence, don't have kids!" i love my son, but (most people don't know this)...i could have gone either way. my husband really wanted kids, so that's the reason we tried. but i would have been fine being childless too. i never had that itch of really wanting kids. when i got pregnant, that all changed, but there is Catherine Gacadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15869966205258293567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4225081154758813845.post-56138031248955990422016-03-02T18:48:07.426-08:002016-03-02T18:48:07.426-08:00Beautifully written Cece!I know the loneliness tha...Beautifully written Cece!I know the loneliness that comes with childfree living well. For about 2 years I really struggled, not really wanting any children but being so surrounded by them that I thought it would be easier to give in and juts join the herd. Our situation is a bit different, since my husband was married before and has 4 daughters from his first marriage. They are all grown up now, Miriamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07553429775991816622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4225081154758813845.post-1974749861866998162016-03-02T08:28:46.085-08:002016-03-02T08:28:46.085-08:00You absolutely, perfectly nailed this post! My hus...You absolutely, perfectly nailed this post! My husband is 31 and I'm 27 and we've been together 7 years (married 2.5). We are absolutely certain we don't want kids, and yet it is blasphemy to say this to anyone and everyone in our circle. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and views, it's nice to know there are others out there like us. <br />-Linds Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14916687782354452239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4225081154758813845.post-43049836580291662312016-03-01T02:07:11.737-08:002016-03-01T02:07:11.737-08:00Thank you for this post! My husband and I have bee...Thank you for this post! My husband and I have been together 7 years and just now after hitting 30 I finally feel comfortable saying out loud to people we do not plan on having children. It is such a hard topic as people either want to ask questions that are extremely personal or say things like "well you never know" with a smug look that makes me want to scream! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00688925084262789391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4225081154758813845.post-26043854210342130942016-02-19T22:29:05.124-08:002016-02-19T22:29:05.124-08:00Fabulous Cece and I have to say good for you and M...Fabulous Cece and I have to say good for you and MJ for going to pony parties and such. Over the years Dar and I have let our relationships with almost all of our friends with children dwindle. Honestly, there's not enough booze in the world to make a 4 year olds birthday party fun {relatives excluded). <br /><br />I do have some good news! We are still definitely the minority but our Brass Honeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05633964614383447886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4225081154758813845.post-36213420326141303952016-02-12T19:09:21.291-08:002016-02-12T19:09:21.291-08:00This was honest and brave. I have been following y...This was honest and brave. I have been following your blog since you got married, since I got married a few months after you did. We have decided not to have children either, after trying for a while, then deciding not to adopt, and then realizing we REALLY liked the DINK lifestyle. If it actually happened then I wouldn't be upset, but I'm almost 43 so it's unlikely to happen.TiffanyInHoustonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11914500598380346340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4225081154758813845.post-67968194511306765042016-02-10T08:46:35.152-08:002016-02-10T08:46:35.152-08:00It is SO true!!! People really DO judge about not...It is SO true!!! People really DO judge about not having or wanting kids. Most people get completely appalled by hearing another person say they don't wants kids. When I was younger I used to feel sorry for people without kids and now, I don't have kids but there is no reason to feel sorry for me :) I LOVE kids, just don't have any of my own and I am single. I am at an age where Tricia Conigliohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15948001098778737272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4225081154758813845.post-11422237933273766612016-02-09T20:44:25.537-08:002016-02-09T20:44:25.537-08:00Wow, this is a powerful post and so well written. ...Wow, this is a powerful post and so well written. I really enjoyed reading it because you were so honest about your position and all the tribulations that it comes with. I think it's natural in this day and age for people to judge no matter what you do. If you are not doing the mainstream thing then something must be wrong. If you have more than the prescribed 2 kids, a house and a minivan Pegsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09853701953706800873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4225081154758813845.post-16957011152542250562016-02-07T17:15:44.691-08:002016-02-07T17:15:44.691-08:00I think everyone has to do what is right for them,...I think everyone has to do what is right for them, so good for you and I'm sure it was scary to put a post like this out into the world. We want kids but I do think the "sooooo when are you gonna have a BABY?" comments are so weird - it's so personal so it's bizarre that people are cool with asking you. So I can only imagine the comments if I said we didn't want kids. jackie jadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12445081275530729227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4225081154758813845.post-22069108573567523442016-02-05T20:04:30.207-08:002016-02-05T20:04:30.207-08:00So well written CeCe!! Would you like to be added ...So well written CeCe!! Would you like to be added to my childfree page? I've certainly had some very similar conversations. Just the other day, someone I talked to was almost speechless over the fact that a married couple would decide (like make the decision/declaration) they are not having kids. She wasn't rude about it, it was really like it was something entirely new to her. We also Mariah-Food, Booze, & Baggagehttp://www.foodboozeandbaggage.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4225081154758813845.post-78466166951398932652016-02-05T17:01:39.610-08:002016-02-05T17:01:39.610-08:00This must have been a difficult post to write and ...This must have been a difficult post to write and publish, because of the judgment that could come your way. It sounds like you've absolutely made the right and thoughtful choice for yourselves. Kudos on putting it out there. I completely agree there's a kind of social stigma about choosing to remain childless and everyone that speaks up helps make it more normal!Gabbyhttp://www.basicallyimcomplicated.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4225081154758813845.post-70258826880521775012016-02-04T08:20:32.012-08:002016-02-04T08:20:32.012-08:00I guess because I'm not married yet, the idea ...I guess because I'm not married yet, the idea of having children seems so impossible or far away. I mean I get I can definitely have a child without a marriage but they just seem to go hand and hand. For me I've been all I want for so long that I feel like a kid would be a new adventure, but the thought of physically having one and giving up the independence is scary. It's hard enoughLaw_Falhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13276377951952437612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4225081154758813845.post-75297006569673325172016-02-04T01:10:52.323-08:002016-02-04T01:10:52.323-08:00I loved the honesty of this post. I don't hav...I loved the honesty of this post. I don't have kids yet but i do want a family someday. Its good to know you don't feel pressured and is doing what feels right for both of you. AFter all its you and him against the world, atleast thats how we think.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03311587058531864993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4225081154758813845.post-36664251471474233982016-02-03T16:31:09.560-08:002016-02-03T16:31:09.560-08:00I don't think you need to justify your choice ...I don't think you need to justify your choice of not having children, but you did. I can appreciate some of your angst around your joint decision, as this is the case for big decision. The important thing is that you're at peace with this decision and that's great for you; it doesn't mean everyone will understand but at least you are good with your decision. This was interesting LifenotesEncouragementhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16900170663081766838noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4225081154758813845.post-74226664911319848512016-02-03T15:50:09.810-08:002016-02-03T15:50:09.810-08:00love this! I actually find that more people are ch...love this! I actually find that more people are choosing not to have kids these days--at least the smart people are anyway. I always wished, like REALLY wished that I didnt want kids, because I loved my life as a family of just two. so much disposable income, naps whenever i wanted, spa days to myself. Now, i am tired. SO tired. and I'm constantly questioning myself. In fact I am typing this Newlyweds on a Budgethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10165059665185786849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4225081154758813845.post-50754298711451618012016-02-03T14:27:21.014-08:002016-02-03T14:27:21.014-08:00I was happy to see this post! My husband and I wil...I was happy to see this post! My husband and I will be married 7 years in May and we too do not want kids. I'm of the age now that if you come at me sideways about my reproductive status, my give a damns have decreased and my mouth is very slick, so please be advised to not try me! Unfortunately, I had to get a family member together this past weekend, but rest assured, I bet they won't Kurlylicioushttp://kurlylicious.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4225081154758813845.post-64793031443224980732016-02-03T13:04:09.629-08:002016-02-03T13:04:09.629-08:00I loved reading this post, each line got more intr...I loved reading this post, each line got more intriguing to me as you wrote..of course this is me speaking as a mom of 2 daughters, and there is no way I can imagine how my life would be without them in it for so many reasons. But, I for sure admire you and your husbands stance on the issue and why its best for you. I most certainty think that most should take the time to outweigh having childrenRenaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09833755674917002881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4225081154758813845.post-68458047115451620282016-02-03T10:55:47.411-08:002016-02-03T10:55:47.411-08:00This was really interesting to read. Naturally bec...This was really interesting to read. Naturally because I have a child, I couldn't imagine not having him in m my world, despite the work and shenanigans that go into raising him. But, I think it's awesome that you and your husband are doing what feels right for you, and not allowing the world to waiver you from what you know is best for you. That's really awesome and I applaud you forShannon Q.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10479637007024269421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4225081154758813845.post-62911921828076503672016-02-03T10:55:12.627-08:002016-02-03T10:55:12.627-08:00As shocking as this is going to sound....we didn&#...As shocking as this is going to sound....we didn't either. Not for a really....REALLY long time. It's nice having friends that both have them and don't, because you know SOMEONE is always available to hang out. I like bouncing back and forth between both worlds right now...since we are in limbo. I like my last minute get togethers with non-kid friends, and I like our pool parties Tia @ HoPohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17886797899366081268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4225081154758813845.post-78573056272098458222016-02-03T10:46:43.440-08:002016-02-03T10:46:43.440-08:00I really loved this post. I'm about to be 29,...I really loved this post. I'm about to be 29, my husband is nearing 31, and we get the "why aren't y'all having kids" question all the time. People love to ask, offer opinions, and critique, but really it's a personal decision for us. I was completely in category C as well until probably 3 or 4 months ago and now i'm just not sure where I fall, maybe somewhere Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09648240326827206956noreply@blogger.com