|July 4th 2008 // Our first Vegas trip together|
In reality there was no guy I went back to but there was a previous marriage that ended in divorce. Ten years ago my marriage had fallen apart. I was bitter, hopeless and oh so very lost. Life was misery for me. When I hear about any suicide including the most recent one that everyone is talking about it really hits home. When I see Robin Williams face I look at his eyes and wonder what kind of torment and pain might have been hiding behind jokes and smiles at that very moment. I hid a lot with my smile too. I don't know his struggle but I know what it's like to see ceasing to exist as a solution.
Four years later I was still single and very anti relationship because relationships are "so hard" and I was not worthy. I didn't think I would ever meet anyone I liked enough to take a chance with which was fine because in my mind I was unlovable anyway; destined to be alone and sad. When we started dating in March 2008 I pushed him away because I did not believe I deserved someone like him. I was distant. I wouldn't allow myself to like him. I just knew I would ruin his life and that's exactly what I told him. I was in a slightly better place but still very damaged and afraid. I still didn't know what it was like to love life and be happy. I had moments of happiness but not the kind of happy that just is for no reason at all and that's when I met him. That's when everything changed for me and I'm so incredibly grateful. He pushed, I found the courage to let him in and life with MJ has been nothing less then amazing. We don't fight, we figure it out. Loving him is easy. He is my rock. He comforts me in so many ways. What if I had never gotten divorced? What if I had successfully sabotaged our relationship? I shudder to think of what my life would be like right now if I had never gotten a divorce and it saddens me to think of the lonely and miserable person I was and might still be today had I not met MJ when I did.
I vaguely remember him kissing me this morning like always before he left for work and reassuring me that it was Friday and not Thursday. That was the other nightmare I had last night. And when I woke up I felt a huge sense of relief. Not only because it was Friday but because the life I have right now is so very different then the one I had ten years ago and I get to come home to a man who means everything to me. It was just a bad dream.