3.25.2015

They Hate Us

Is it still a thing to be annoyed by couples that sit on the same side of the booth?  I stumbled across this on some person's random Facebook page.


Dear weird couple that sits on the same side of the booth.  Do you not realize that it's not a bar it's a table and thus there are two sides of the table to sit on?  Are you that joined at the hip and co dependent that you cannot bear to sit a few feet apart for an entire meal?  Do you realize how annoying it is?  When you sit across from each other you can talk and look each other in the eye.  You can actually see your partner and that is much more romantic then craning your neck to talk to each other side by side.  This same sider seating is very annoying and creepy.  Just the sight of it drives people insane.  It's as if you are desperate to proclaim to the world that you are that in love that you must sit next to each other. 
-Source, unknown/anonymous. 

Sitting on the same side since 2008
"They hate us you know,"  I said to MJ one time when we were sitting next to each other at a restaurant.  He had no idea it was even a thing to be hated for until I told him that a lot of people seem to have a problem with couples who choose to sit next to each other instead of across from each other.

We are that weird couple who sits on the same side of the booth.  I am the instigator and he allows it.  He slides into one side and I side into the same side right beside him.  There is no insidious purpose behind it.  We are not desperate to proclaim that we are so in love.  It's just a preference and one of many choices that one might encounter when dining out.  Table or booth?  Bar or Dining room?  Straw or no straw? Dessert or no Dessert?  You get the idea.  You go in you sit, someone takes your order and you eat.  It all plays out the same regardless of where anybody sits.

We are not sucking face.  We are not feeling each other up.  There might be some hand holding while we wait for our food and a few cheek kisses here and there but it's not excessive in any way so I don't really see how that is anyone's business but ours anyways.

When the food comes I have easy access for snagging a bite off of his plate and I enjoy the intimacy of having our own little private dinner.  Yes, in a public restaurant.  And I do not find it at all difficult to hold a conversation when we are next to each other.  I glance over to my left or my right and bam, there he is.  No neck craning involved.  We talk and laugh just as well as we would across from one another. 

Call me weird, but I just like being next to him.   Even at home I want to be right next to him if we are watching TV or when we go to bed.  Lest you think I am totally smothering him; I do give him his space.  We are not co dependent.  My husband travels for work every year and I do not fall apart without him.  We do our own thing.  I go out with my friends.  He participates in extra curricular activities and hangs out with his friends.  At home we are free to retreat to two separate living spaces and do our own thing.  We are not joined at the hip. I just like sitting next to him.

It's not my problem if this bothers people.  The only time I can recall being annoyed by this behavior is when I was in a miserable relationship or when I was single and sad about it.  My negative reaction to same siders had less to do with the couple and more to do with my own personal issues.  It just doesn't really seem like a big deal to me.  Certainly not something to be that annoyed by and I didn't even know "same sider" was a thing until I read that post.

How do you feel about same siders?  Do it, hate it or don't care?

24 comments :

That Blue House said...

Their rant makes me feel like people will find ANYTHING to complain about these days. I just saw an old couple walking hand in hand, and thought to myself, "man, that's what I want for my marriage when I'm their age." I like to sit across from my husband at dinner, simply because I do find it easier to be able to look into his face for conversation, and I still love stealing bites from his food. But again, personal preference. I love cuddling and hugging for long periods of time and have no problem with small doses of PDA... I usually think other people's complaints have more to do with their own personal issues than what others are actually doing. You keep on loving on your man!

Amanda @ MyLifeIGuess.com said...

Do you're own thing, CeCe! I personally wouldn't sit on the same side as my fiance, but it doesn't bother me at all if you do. :)

Tami said...

I'm laughing SO hard at this post. I feel like it's weird to sit on the same side but that's because I prefer to sit across from each other. John and I sit on the same side if were there to watch football, or if the booth is facing a wall of something. Your passion on the topic cracked me up!

Law_Fal said...

I never pay that much attention to other diners unless they're just being loud or fighting or something. I personally like sitting on the same side, but my ex hated it so he would always switch sides or not sit by me. He was a jerk though haha but that's a whole different story! I get cold fast so being close is cool to me. *shrugs*

Carly Blogs Here said...

oh my gosh with that facebook post- I can't imagine someone caring so much about where someone sits when they go out to eat-- LOL! The things that annoy me are when people are loud or rude or doing something that literally has some kind of effect on my dining experience!

A Life Less Traveled said...

Ty and I sit on the same side of the booth sometimes. Does that really annoy people? People get annoyed but the weirdest things.

Ari said...

Wow. People just get jelly. We sit on the same side too! And not so much because we love each other lol, we do. But because we love picking different dishes and sharing them. So sitting next to each other is much more fun. Hehe

-Ari
Flashesofclarity.com

Nicole @ Treasure Tromp said...

We totally do that as well. I don't even care if people think that it is obnoxious!

Faith said...

Haha, I don't think I've ever noticed a couple sitting together on a bench but probably because it isn't something that bothers me. It's strange the things that bother people.

For me, Sean and I always sit across from each other. I find it easier to snap a sneaky picture of him or to talk but I don't turn my nose on others who want to sit next to each other. Whatever floats your boat.

Dee said...

I am amazed that the way a person chooses to sit with their husband presents this big an issue for someone else. With all of the problems going on in this world, this is what's bothering this person the most? It's not like your sitting on his lap and spoon feeding him the whole time. You're simply sitting next to him and enjoying some together time. I personally sit across from my hubby but it's our personal preference and we've never once had a problem with any couples around us who chose to sit side by side. In my opinion, the person complaining is a hater and probably secretly craves what you and your hubby share. I agree with 'That blue house,' ignore the haters and just keep on loving on your man... :)

Tomes Edition said...

I prefer to sit across from my husband and just stare into his eyes while conversating, is that weird? lol I still steal stuff off his plate too. But do your thing and what makes you guys happy. I thinks its adorable. I never really thought of it till i read your post and its hilarious what people sit down and study.

Maureen S. said...

Haha! My first time commenting. My cousin and I have had this conversation before because we both like to sit on the same side as our hubbies and we know that some people think it is weird! Lol. We don't even care though! People comment on everything. My hubby and I get looks and comments all the time from strangers because sometimes he will give me a hug or kiss before walking away from our table. It usually makes me feel sad to think that our behavior is not the "norm" because people don't know how to show their love to each other anymore, besides just physically being there. When I say this, I'm not talking about making out in public. I mean little things like holding the door for your spouse (it could be either the man or lady- we both do it for each other) or holding hands in public, ect. People are so caught up with being Ms./Mr. Independent, yet we all know we want to be loved and cherished openly by somebody. In my own opinion, I'd rather see people modestly displaying their affection publicly than seeing couples fighting in public or talking rudely to each other.

LaToya LouisvilleSlugger said...

People are stupid and will complain about ANYthing. lol. Keep sitting right next to your man and smile.

Kate said...

I agree with you, when it bothered me in the past, it was really because of my own issues and me trying to think my life was "better" because I was single and whatever. If people are upset enough they need to write a lengthy facebook post about it, then that's pretty sad--they definitely have their own issues they need two work through. Sometimes, I like sitting next to my husband, especially if we're trying to watch tv or if the restaurant is particularly cold. You do you, CeCe!

cashanamusings said...

It is cute to me. On my 2nd job we have this regular elderly couple who sit on the same side in their both, totally cute to me. Folks can find anything to be up in arms about if they put their minds to it.

Ashley R said...

So I totally didn't realize this was a thing either- we totally DO it! I say sit next to each other proudly. :P

Jacqueline Hough said...

Personally, I have always viewed same siders as romantics. I think it is sweet and adorable. Be you!!!

Janna Renee said...

We do both, but if I had my say we would sit on the same side every time. Will is fine either way, but he does like to be able to look at me while we talk. I think it's stupid that people even care how couples sit. If anything, we should celebrate every single couple that loves each other enough to CHOOSE to sit next to one another.

Tricia Coniglio said...

So funny you posted this because I used to think it was weird to sit next to each other in a booth. Mostly because it was less convenient to have conversation. But a couple days ago I saw a couple doing it and I thought it was cute. I have no idea what changed in my head but they looked cozy and comfortable and not at all awkward or strained.

Think I'm gonna give it another shot!

Jessica said...

I used to think that sitting on the same side of a booth was strange too but I have totally changed my mind in recent years.

Pegster said...

That is so not weird and I don't know why someone would hate another person over something so benign. I personally don't care, I sit on the same side sometimes and I sit on opposite sides too, it just depends. Go ahead and enjoy sitting on the same side, it's really not that big of a deal and I totally don't hate you guys :)

I do despise couples that make out non stop and eat each other faces at dinner. It's like, come on, get a room :)

Mrs. Pancakes said...

LOL...I can't even imagine something like this would bother people. We do sit across from each other but I am all about being next to my man too. We have the biggest and longest couch in our tv room and we are always right next to each other.

Food, Booze, & Baggage said...

What!?! Well, P and I are in the same boat with you two. We don't always sit on the same side, but we do often. It's easier to share food that way, or if it is loud you can still have a conversation. People are so funny, who cares. P and I saw this older couple a few weeks ago sitting side by side at their table and it was the CUTEST!!! P and I instantly turned to each other to say something about it :)

Susannah said...

We're same siders too and I'm proud of it! ;-)

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